We are use to hearing the common saying “do unto others as you want done unto you.” But today I want to talk about doing unto yourself as you do unto others. Most of us don’t feel troubled at all to go above and beyond for our children, loved ones, friends, neighbors, etc. Whether it’s the look on the other persons face, their gratitude or the pleasure of doing good, we come through for the people we care about.
What would happen if we treated ourselves the same way?
You wouldn’t let your child go without eating or feed them junk because you have more important things to do right? Then you shouldn’t do it to yourself. Whether you have a weight goal, health goal or are just interested in being healthier over all, you can and should find the time to eat, meal plan, meal prep or whatever you have to do to reach your goal. Do things that make it possible for you to be the best you possible. Workout, fellowship, read, shower (new moms). Don’t burn yourself out meeting other peoples needs without tending to your own as well.
How about the way you speak to yourself?
Are you over critical of yourself? Do you say things to yourself that you would never say to your best friend or daughter? It is not fair to speak/think unkind words to yourself. Your are not showing yourself tough love. By being critical of yourself you are reinforcing negative habits and behavior. The more you tell yourself something the more you believe it is true and eventually it may come true. So try speaking to yourself positively. Instead of saying “I’ll never get that promotion because everyone else here is smarter than me” (could you imagine saying that about a friend to their face??), you can try saying “I may have a lot to learn, but if I work hard enough I will qualify for that position someday”. Instead of “I’ve tried this so many times before, I might as well not even try again” try, “I’ve learned from my past attempts so I have an advantage this time and I’m going to do great!” And every now and then just throw in an, “I’m awesome!!!”, because you are.
So let’s be kind and helpful to ourselves, just like we are to the people in our lives. We will be better for it!